High Vibes Only: Curating Your Circle

You ever notice how some people walk into a room and suddenly the whole place feels like a surprise birthday party? Balloons, confetti, dance party soundtrack. And then there are others who enter and it’s like someone unplugged the music and turned the lights on at last call. Yikes. Midlife lesson? You get to choose which energy you dance with.

Here’s the truth: your energy is your most valuable currency, and who you surround yourself with is basically your financial planner. People who lift you up, laugh with you, cheer for your dreams—those are your compound interest friends. The “negative nelly” crowd? They’ll drain your life savings faster than a slot machine. Protecting your energy is not about being mean, it’s about setting boundaries so you don’t end up emotionally bankrupt.

And yes—this goes for online too! Social media and online communities are like a giant digital cocktail party. You get to choose who you hang out with. Follow pages that inspire, join groups that encourage growth, and mute or block the drama llamas (I love that saying 😊). Create your own high-vibe corner online: start an online group with people who uplift you, share funny wins, or swap tips for staying energized. [Hot tip: Join our Lifeswerve Community where you’ll find a safe, inspiring space to connect with like-minded people who are committed to deep personal growth, meaningful change, and living life on purpose.]

So how do you do it without feeling like a bad guy? Try these:

1. The Two-Minute Rule – If you leave a conversation and feel deflated within two minutes, that’s your body saying “nope.” Limit time with that person.
2. Create a Positivity Menu – Fill your week with at least three “high-vibe” activities (walk with a friend, watch something that makes you laugh-snort, blast your favourite song while making dinner).
3. Practice the Polite Pivot – When gossip or negativity creeps in, redirect like a pro: “That sounds tough—hey, did you see the latest video from Mel Robbins on raising your energy? Game-changer.” (Here’s the link if you need it: Mel Robbins on YouTube).
4. Curate Your Online Tribe – Unfollow or mute feeds that bring you down, join groups that align with your vibe, and share your wins to lift others too. Delete apps that are negative – e.g. X aka Twitter.  High energy is contagious—let it spread digitally!

Bottom line: building a community of positivity doesn’t mean you cut everyone out—it means you curate your circle like you’d curate your Spotify playlist. Surround yourself with people and activities that light you up—both IRL and online—and watch how your energy spills over into every corner of your life.

- Kim