Own It Like You Mean It: Creating a Life That Feels as Good as It Looks

Let’s be real: sometimes we all want to blame Mercury in retrograde, our boss, our ex, or that mysterious "algorithm" for why life isn’t going the way we planned. But here’s the truth—if you want to live a life that lights you up from the inside out, you’ve got to grab the wheel. And no, not like a stressed-out Uber driver. More like someone who’s finally done outsourcing their joy to Starbucks and Netflix and is ready to create actual magic in their own life.

Accountability isn’t about shame, guilt, or becoming a productivity robot. It’s about recognizing that you are the common denominator in every area of your life, which is actually really empowering. Why? Because if you created the mess (hiya, late night snack binges and ghosting your morning workouts), then guess what? You also have the power to create the masterpiece. It all starts with one question: What do I want to feel more of every day? Joy? Peace? Energy? Start there and reverse engineer your choices.

Here’s your inside-out toolbox:

1. Own your morning – even just 10 minutes of meditation, breathwork, journaling, or stretching sends a clear message to your brain: “I’ve got this.”
2. Ditch perfectionism – progress is sexy, perfection is exhausting.
3. Say no like a grown-up – every yes to someone else is a no to your own priorities so pick you first!
4. Fuel your body like you love it – because your vibe and your snacks are directly related.
5. Check your stories – especially the ones that start with “I’m just not the type of person who…” (That’s your cue to become exactly that type.)
6. I am the person who…………………..(your version of who you ACTUALLY are and want to continue to become!)

Need inspiration? Check out Mel Robbins’ TEDx Talk: "How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over". It’s a no-BS reminder that we’re all just one decision away from a different life.

So start today—one tiny, messy, magical step at a time. You don’t need permission. Just your own damn courage.